Losing a family pet may be one of the first deaths we experience as children. Children should be told the
truth about their pet. If possible the child should be warned if their pet is terminally ill or if euthanasia is going to
be performed so that they can ask questions, prepare themselves for the loss and say their farewells. They may even want to
be there at the time of euthanasia or see the dead body. It is important to allow time for discussion at this very sensitive
time; be prepared to show your feelings and talk about the pet's death.
Children may want to make some mark of remembrance to their dead pet. If burial of the body is not possible
they may want to bury a momento, such as their pets toy or lead, in a favourite spot and plant some bulbs or flowers.
Some children may want to draw pictures or write poems. This will help them grieve and come to terms with
the loss.
Children who can grieve and then let go of their grief will be better prepared for the future losses in
their life.
Helpful books:-
"Goodbye Dear Friend" by Virginia Ironside, Robson Books
"Death of an Animal Friend" by the Society for Companion
Animal Studies
SCAS Director 10(B) Leny Road, Callander, Perthshire FK17 8BA
"Absent Friend" by Martyn and Laura Lee, Henston Books
Link to PET LOSS for more information
